tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-75813370441546903412024-02-20T05:41:40.336-05:00Struggling with endometriosis ? Infertility causing you to be childless? Fostering teenagers scary?Writing my memoir "LOST IN A SEA OF MOTHERS: AM I A MOTHER YET? brought me much needed healing from the anguish I felt when faced with childlessness. My goal is to reach as many women as possible who are dealing with infertility, endometriosis and fostering teens.Cathiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05734002678042227927noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7581337044154690341.post-7858848914963400392013-09-02T10:22:00.003-04:002013-09-02T10:22:55.628-04:00Smashwords Q & A<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Sorry it's been so long since I last posted. I've been a busy girl. Here is a link for an interview I did with Smashwords: <a href="https://www.smashwords.com/interview/liasomothers">https://www.smashwords.com/interview/liasomothers</a><br />
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Cathiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05734002678042227927noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7581337044154690341.post-80120026383416050242013-01-22T10:25:00.000-05:002013-01-22T10:25:01.277-05:00Foster-to-adopt<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
If you are infertile and believe that your are on the brink of feeling that you will never have children of your own maybe it's time to start thinking about fostering a child instead. There are so many children out there in need of a home, especially teenagers. Most of the kids in foster care today are teenagers and the younger kids are usually snatched up by relatives. Fostering a teenager is extremely hard work but it is so worth it in the end. I'm living proof. (I'm a much stronger person because I went through it.) It won't feel like it at the time but your teenagers will grow into young adults and will eventually tell you how much they appreciated all that you did even when they were monsters to you. That you didn't give up on them and that now they are able to live somewhat normal lives because of all the hard work and love that you put in to help these troubled kids out. Even though you may think they ignore and don't notice all that you do, they do, they remember, they love you for it. It just takes them a long time to admit it, like 6 or 7 years later, but they do and when they do it feels like a million bucks. So when the social worker asks you what age group, try to say "Yes" to a teenager instead of saying no out of fear. You could make a difference in a kids life today. If I can do it, so can you. If you have any questions, you can email me at <a href="mailto:cathie.lambert@gmail.com">cathie.lambert@gmail.com</a>. </div>
Cathiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05734002678042227927noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7581337044154690341.post-64321281559746102242013-01-22T10:06:00.000-05:002013-01-22T10:36:00.457-05:00My daughter<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
On October 11, 2012 we adopted our former foster daughter Eva, now 22 but was 15 when we first met her back in December 2005. Presently, she is living with us and will soon give birth to her baby daughter, our grand-daughter. She is due on February 18th. My husband and I are very excited to be grandparents, especially since we never had a chance to experience little ones of our own.<br />
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Eva had a great time at her baby shower last Saturday. I was very surprised when I didn't feel the urge to cry when I was reminded that I never got to experience what she was then experiencing. I was so happy for her as a mother that I was simply okay and I knew that I was soon to be a grandmother and very involved in my grandchild's life.<br />
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I was briefly upset when Eva told me she was moving out after the baby was born in order to be able to live with the baby's father and try to make it own their own but I know that Eva will visit often and will sometimes need a baby sitter so I am okay.<br />
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I still can't believe I'm going to be a grandmother, it blows me away sometimes.<br />
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If anyone is interested in learning about how Eva and I first met and how our relationship got started you can read it in my book, "Lost in a Sea of Mothers: Am I a Mother Yet?" click on the Book link above or click on the ebook device you own on the upper right hand side to purchase directly. </div>
Cathiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05734002678042227927noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7581337044154690341.post-65096616141514846942012-10-22T16:43:00.001-04:002012-10-22T16:43:53.841-04:00Facebook Fan message<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span class="messageBody" data-ft="{"type":3}">"Cathie, <br /> Thank you so much for writing your story. I was diagnosed with endo before I met my husband. I had laser removal the year before we started dating, so he never saw how bad everything actually got. But now, 4 years after surgery, I know it's coming back and I'm terrified. I just can't seem to make him understand what we're up against. I found your book last night on my Kindle and read it all in one sitting. I hope that I can convince Thomas to read it as well, because you found the words that always fail me. You were able to describe the physical and emotional pain I've felt for so long...and the fear about the effect of infertility on a marriage. So, thank you for sharing and for letting me know that I'm not alone...there are many of us facing this agony silently, too embarrassed to say anything. "</span><br />
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<span class="messageBody" data-ft="{"type":3}">FB fan Heather-</span></div>
Cathiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05734002678042227927noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7581337044154690341.post-87583123366750787132012-10-20T13:20:00.000-04:002012-10-20T13:20:13.545-04:00Infertility questions I've thought about.<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Do I regret not trying harder to have a baby before my hysterectomy?<br />
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<li>No. I did as much as I felt I was comfortable and emotionally able to handle. I was also realistic to the outcome ( high risk for a miscarriage). I didn't want to spend too many days, months or years trying for something that was not a guarantee and that was making me miserable. At the time, we didn't have the money to adopt either.</li>
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How has infertility changed my relationship with my husband?<br />
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<li>I know how much he loves me now. He loved me enough to stay with me even though I wasn't able to give him any children. We have grown stronger as a couple and have more time for each other because we never had to raise little kids. </li>
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How has infertility changed me as a person?<br />
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<li>It is true when they say "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger". I have had to go above and beyond self exploration to figure out who I am because of my infertility. I have experienced so much heartache through the years because I always thought I would be a mother to my own child. When I finally accepted the fact that I would never have children of my own, I went through a personal life changing shift. Because of my infertility my book was born. Because of my book my confidence has grown. I have been able to connect with other people in such a way that I wouldn't have been able to if I was like everyone else.</li>
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How has going from a foster mother to an adoptive mother changed me.<br />
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<li> We just adopted our 22 year old former foster daughter last week and it's been hard for me to process that she is ours now because I didn't give birth to her. I know I love her but now I have to figure out how to be a mother instead of a foster mother. I don't want to disappoint her. I think I took her for granted right after she was adopted. Similar to how some people are after they get married. Not good. It is still new to me and a struggle that I'm trying to undertake. Though, I am happy that she is apart of our family now. I don't think it has sunk in all the way yet.</li>
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Am I happy?<br />
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<li>Yes. For a long time I didn't think I would ever be happy again but now that I've experienced so much in my life I can truely say that I'm happy to be alive. When you are in your dark place you can't imagine ever being happy again, but it will come. Maybe not right away but if you give it half a chance you might surprise yourself.</li>
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Cathiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05734002678042227927noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7581337044154690341.post-46378564913979939492012-09-13T15:37:00.000-04:002012-09-13T15:37:00.412-04:00Adoption Day!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
We finally received the adoption court date which is on Oct 11. We are so excited!</div>
Cathiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05734002678042227927noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7581337044154690341.post-46524767315540380222012-07-28T09:06:00.000-04:002012-07-28T09:06:40.056-04:00New Price!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
You can now purchase my book for $1.99 at <a href="https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/103187">https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/103187</a><br />
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Also, very soon, you can purchase my book at Amazon kindle for only $2.99. The changes are still being reviewed. But, at the present, it is available for $3.99 <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Lost-Sea-Mothers-Mother-ebook/dp/B006HN4RM6/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1343480678&sr=1-1&keywords=lost+in+a+sea+of+mothers">http://www.amazon.com/Lost-Sea-Mothers-Mother-ebook/dp/B006HN4RM6/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1343480678&sr=1-1&keywords=lost+in+a+sea+of+mothers</a></div>Cathiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05734002678042227927noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7581337044154690341.post-48409348984004396062012-07-20T13:25:00.000-04:002012-07-20T13:25:46.543-04:00Baby Shower :/<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I know it's too early to think about hosting a baby shower for Eva but I can't stop thinking about it. I think I need 6 months just to try to convince myself to do it. I haven't been to one in almost 15 years because it hurts too much to attend one. I'm going to be a grandmother and I want to support my daughter. I feel very conflicted. Should I ask someone else to do it for me? Anyone have any advice for me. I want to do the right thing but save my sanity too.</div>Cathiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05734002678042227927noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7581337044154690341.post-62244951079988130742012-07-15T12:58:00.000-04:002012-07-15T12:58:22.404-04:00Adopting young adult.<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
My husband and I are in the process of adopting, Eva, a former foster child, who will be 22 next month. She came to us at 15 and left at 16. She came back to us a year ago and we have reestablished a relationship with her and she is progressing very nicely and we love her very much. Also, Eva is 8 weeks and 2 days pregnant today. She and her boyfriend are working hard trying to save money for when the baby comes. She is due in February.</div>Cathiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05734002678042227927noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7581337044154690341.post-72739118385341605962012-07-15T12:44:00.001-04:002012-07-16T15:35:02.498-04:00From my fans!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Thanks so much for all of your support and feedback. It's much appreciated. Here are a few kind words from my FB and Twitter followers.<br />
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FB-"Great book!!! I too have endo stage 4 and u have inspired me to tell my story."<br />
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"<a class="twitter-atreply pretty-link" href="https://twitter.com/Liasomothers"><s><span style="color: #66b5d2;">@</span></s><b><span style="color: #0084b4;">Liasomothers</span></b></a> just finished ur book. I am moved beyond words! You are an inspiration in SO many ways!! Every1 needs a copy! <a class="twitter-hashtag pretty-link" data-query-source="hashtag_click" href="https://twitter.com/search/%23endometriosis"><span style="color: #0084b4;"></span><s><span style="color: #66b5d2;">#</span></s><b><span style="color: #0084b4;">endometriosis</span></b></a>"<br />
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<span class="messageBody" data-ft="{"type":3}">FB-"as a woman that is newly dealing with the possiblity of not becoming a mother due to a miscarriage and many failed iui attempts, this book is very helpful. its comforting to know that there are other people that understand that feelings that come along with this. I recommended on my own page that people, with and without children read your book.....it can be hard for people that have children easily to understand what we who cannot go through on a daily basis. Thank you for this book!"</span><br />
<span class="messageBody" data-ft="{"type":3}"> -"<span class="commentBody" data-jsid="text">well, your book helped me not feel like the only person in the world that deals with this.... i thank you for that"</span></span><br />
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<span class="messageBody" data-ft="{"type":3}"><span class="commentBody" data-jsid="text">And thanks for the kind reviews on Amazon :)</span></span><br />
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Check out a piece I wrote for Life Without Baby blog at <a href="http://lifewithoutbaby.wordpress.com/2012/05/17/guest-post-trying-to-live-shame-free/#comment-4462">http://lifewithoutbaby.wordpress.com/2012/05/17/guest-post-trying-to-live-shame-free/#comment-4462</a></div>Cathiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05734002678042227927noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7581337044154690341.post-81593612781330884172012-04-18T21:08:00.000-04:002012-04-18T21:08:23.855-04:00I was built for mothering not marketing!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I have been searching for so long for other peoples approval and praise that I forgot about why I wrote my book in the first place. I keep wanting more! I feel like I've only helped a few women and I'm having a hard time spreading the word because I don't want to bombard people with heavy marketing on my blog, Twitter and Facebook. I believe in my work and I'm proud of what I wrote but I lack the skills and too conscientious about being in peoples faces on spreading the word. My timidness is holding me back.<br />
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I live everyday waiting to see who wrote to me on Facebook or Twitter or commented on my blog. I need this attention because I'm not getting it from the kids I'm suppose to have. My foster kids do praise me and are proud of me but they are all adults and have their own lives to live. I barely got to live the life I've always dreamed of. I wanted to be a mother from scratch. I have come a long way but at times it's hard to see this.<br />
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My book is my baby and I'm not a very good mother right now.<br />
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I have read so many blogs my brain is going to explode. I've read so many sites on how to market your book but you need a certain amount of charisma and charm to be good at it. I knew it wasn't going to be easy but never thought it would be this hard. I was built for mothering not marketing.</div>Cathiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05734002678042227927noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7581337044154690341.post-41062201840148252652012-04-17T12:15:00.000-04:002012-04-17T12:15:21.936-04:00Endometriosis<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Excerpt from Chapter Eighteen--<br />
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<span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">"When the paramedics finally arrived, I was relieved but felt
self-conscious as well.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I mentioned that
I had taken a Midol earlier, but it didn’t even come close to curbing my
pain.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As the paramedics evaluated me I
couldn’t help but feel embarrassed that I wasn’t able to handle the pain I was
having and that I wanted to go to the emergency room for painful cramps.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was so dizzy and in such pain I didn’t know
what else to do."<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Still working hard trying to get my book noticed. So far I have sold 35 copies since I first released it in Nov 2011. Not the greatest number but it could be worse. I'm hoping it will pick up within the next two years. The Hunger Games book was released in 2008 and it has only recently taken off so that gives me some hope. I guess it takes a long time for word of mouth to travel to so many people. I haven't given up hope but I have put off writing my next book for a while. I really enjoy meeting new people on Twitter. I know it's not the greatest route to go but I'm still a newbie and I like meeting people from all over the world.<br />
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My foster kids keep me quite busy. Eva moved back in last May and we have been getting along great. I really enjoy spending time with her and we became even closer when my parents took her and I camping last summer for four days. Eva received her drivers license last month and now saving up to buy her own car. For now she drives Larry's car to work on the weekends (his car is smaller than mine, I have a SUV type vehicle) and during the week I take her. Eva turns 22 in August 2012.<br />
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Shurik still lives in D.C. and recently got a new job working as an office administrator at a real estate investment firm. We're very proud. Shurik will be 23 in August 2012.<br />
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Ellie moved out last fall because she and Larry were not seeing eye to eye and the relationship is now estranged. We get periodic updates from her sister Eva and to our surprise she recently sent us a complimentary message through Facebook. Ellie turned 19 two months ago. She has not visited us since she moved out.<br />
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Darya is doing well and still lives on her own. She has dated a few different people but nothing serious yet. She regularly visits us and sometimes spends the weekend. Darya will be 23 in July 2012.<br />
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Larry and I invited Darya and Shurik over so we could spend Easter with all three kids. I made them Easter baskets and filled them with candy. Also, I bought two Easter games for them to play, they had a blast.</div>Cathiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05734002678042227927noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7581337044154690341.post-72127236172454319222012-04-09T12:34:00.001-04:002012-04-09T12:34:16.178-04:00Q and A<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
If anyone has questions about the book or anything else, please feel free to ask:)</div>Cathiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05734002678042227927noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7581337044154690341.post-44301630591773504682012-04-07T21:26:00.001-04:002012-04-07T21:26:51.287-04:00Endometriosis Awareness Day 16.<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
A few weeks ago I was featured on another blog. Thanks Nicole :D <br />
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<a href="http://whisperedwordsforevercaptured.blogspot.com/2012/03/endometriosis-awareness-day-16.html">http://whisperedwordsforevercaptured.blogspot.com/2012/03/endometriosis-awareness-day-16.html</a></div>Cathiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05734002678042227927noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7581337044154690341.post-90741425978900920422012-04-07T13:34:00.001-04:002012-04-07T13:36:45.116-04:00Great Reviews!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I am thrilled to say that so far I have been getting great reviews from family, friends and fans on Twitter. Thanks everyone for your kind words! <br />
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<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Lost-Sea-Mothers-Mother-Yet/product-reviews/1467966800/ref=dp_top_cm_cr_acr_txt?ie=UTF8&showViewpoints=1">http://www.amazon.com/Lost-Sea-Mothers-Mother-Yet/product-reviews/1467966800/ref=dp_top_cm_cr_acr_txt?ie=UTF8&showViewpoints=1</a><br />
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<a href="http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/lost-in-a-sea-of-mothers-catherine-lambert/1107954039?ean=2940032856030&itm=1&usri=lost+in+a+sea+of+mothers">http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/lost-in-a-sea-of-mothers-catherine-lambert/1107954039?ean=2940032856030&itm=1&usri=lost+in+a+sea+of+mothers</a></div>Cathiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05734002678042227927noreply@blogger.com0